My best female friend came to my house and told me she just broke up with her boyfriend. She knew her boyfriend from a hookup dating app and she thought he was nice and gentle so she decided to be with him and they became lovers. But things go differently these days. Her boyfriend started to belittle her and think she can't do anything well.And by chance, she found her boyfriend was chatting with a girl in hookup app. She felt bad and said goodbye to her boyfriend. We have to admit that when lovers argue, there will be something unhappy . But if you find the signs in an arguement, maybe it is time to say breakup.
Firstly, like what my friend’s boyfriend did, belittling you and chatting with other girls in hook up apps. This can be very dangerous for your confidence. They will make you feel that you can’t do anything without them and they can have better performance in the same thing. Some people will think that they should continue this relationship because they can do nothing with their lovers which is what their lovers want to see. I’d like to see if you find someone who is always belittling you, you should get away from them.
Secondly, people who say voilent and dirty words to you. Verbal abuse with some dirty words show this person is not kind with good manners. Each time you have arguement, your lover says something really impolite and violent, you will feel you are not respected by him/her . I have to say this can be a great pity to stay with those people. A good personality is the basic choice the person should have. A person who is always saying obscenities will not only afftect you and you can imagine he will affect your kids if you marry him/her. That is the biggest problem.
Thirdly, you meet the physical violence . This is the most important factor you should pay attention to. If your love had physical violence to you once, you shoule say good bye quickly. Why? According to a study in the US, 99% domestic violences will happen again after the first voilence. You lover no matter known from hookup apps or real life, you can imagine a this person who can’t control the action to love you, respect you, which is not realistic. If your love always forces you to do something you don’t like, you should stop h this . Because if you allow this action once, you will do this action for many times. You should say no at the first and get far away from this person. Don’t be afraid of saying no.
Fourthly, staying away from the lover who wants to control your life all the time. Some people may say this is because their lover cares them so they want to get involved in their life totally. But in a healthy love relationship, both parties shoule give fully trust to each other and respect their friends and private life. If your love monitors your life all the time, it is better to say good bye.
The above four signs should be paid great attention and hope all people can find good lovers.